The Lies They Tell You so You’ll Feel Better About STILL Being Single

March 30, 2021

I'm Erin!

Dating writer, speaker, hype-girl, marketer, overachiever and no-BS friend who always brings wine. Helping you navigate the intersection between dating, relationships and your career. 


If you’ve been single for any length of time, particularly if you’ve ventured into your 40s without ever being engaged, married, divorced, widowed and without kids, then you’ve definitely heard some of these lines before.

Often, well-meaning friends, family, colleagues and pretty much anyone else you come into contact with, just can’t help but feed you these lies. It’s like the words tumble out of their mouths automatically as soon as you say you’re still single.

Because how could you, this beautiful, smart, fun, stylish, active, accomplished, ambitious, driven, multi-faceted woman still be single? If we knew, we wouldn’t be here right?

So tell me, how many of these have you heard before?

  • You just haven’t met the right guy yet
  • They’re intimidated by you
  • You’ll be next
  • It will happen when you least expect it
  • You’ve waited this long, don’t settle
  • There are plenty of other fish in the sea
  • You don’t need a man to make you happy

My upcoming book, “No Man’s Land: The Search for Mr. Right,” explores each of these lies in detail. Check out my IGTV to take a deeper dive into them until the book comes out. You can find me on Instagram @erinmstafford.

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I'm Erin, your new no-BS friend.

I survived more dates, ghostings and break ups than I care to count, yet have still managed to kick ass in my career and life. I'm a straight shooter that exudes positivity, who's passionate about helping you navigate the ever-changing intersection of dating, relationships and your career.  

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