There is no shortage of dating, relationship and personal development books on the market. It feels like every twenty-something girl that’s ever appeared on the Bachelor has written a flimsy book about dating. That’s why it takes so much to really stand out in this field.
The two books below are definitely worth reading. They are completely different from each other, but both are so painfully accurate and authentic, they’ll have you feeling so connected to other women with similar experiences that you’ll want to tell all your friends about them, like me. Pour yourself a glass of wine and dive into both of these. Or better yet, pick one as your next book club read. You won’t regret it!
(And no, I’m not being paid to tell you this. They are just genuinely awesome and I think you’ll love them).
by Holly Bourne (Toronto: Mira, 2020)
I cannot stress this enough, if you have been through the dating gauntlet for years (or decades) like I have, stop what you’re doing and get this book immediately! It’s a novel, but it is clearly written by someone who has been dragged through the dating trenches, repeatedly. It’s so relatable it feels as if the author is inside your head, sharing all your deep, dark dating secrets and experiences.
The stories she shares, the dialogue, the insecurities, the shit that goes through your head when you’re on a date or at a wedding or thinking about the fact that you may indeed be alone forever, all of it. She writes about it all, and with such candor and spot-on accuracy, you finish the book and think “Wow, that’s me. I’ve been there too!”
It’s refreshing and such a quick and easy read. Trust me on this one, buy it.
No One Tells You This
by Glynnis MacNicol (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2018)
This book is good on so many levels. When you’re a woman about to turn 40 and you’ve never been married and don’t have kids, there always seems to be a sense of failure. Like for some reason you’re not complete as a woman unless you have a husband and kids. It doesn’t matter how incredible your life is, how happy you are or what you’ve accomplished in other areas of your life, if you don’t have the partner and kids, it feels like you’ve failed.
Glynnis takes us along on her journey of turning 40 with brutal honesty, vulnerability and humor. It’s a story of self discovery and coming to grips with the fact that she’s actually happy with her life the way it is. Layered over her own experience is the story of her mother’s death and coming to grips with the gut-wrenching reality that your parent is gone.
It’s poignant, raw and incredibly accurate in the feelings and realizations that women at 40 grapple with. A must read to feel like you’re not alone if you too are 40, single and content with yourself and your life just the way it is.