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I’m the girl with the big, fun personality that no one wanted to date in high school. My brother was THE hot guy that all the girls loved and I was basically invisible when standing next to my gorgeous BFF. Let’s just say I wasn’t exactly pursued by many guys growing up.

I continued to work on myself, excelled at school, got a master’s degree from a kick-ass university, traveled the world, grew in my career, met amazing friends, fell in love a couple of times and had a blast along the way, all the while thinking I’d meet Mr. Right and settle down at some point. I mean…I’d set myself up for success after all. Or at least I thought.

Well, news flash, I’m 39 and still single. Never engaged, never married, no kids. WTF?! This wasn’t my plan and sure as hell wasn’t where I thought I’d be at this point in my life. I feel like I need a good divorce under my belt just to feel semi-normal at this age.

So instead of feeling inadequate, I’m turning my pain into my purpose. There are so many books devoted to singles, but damn few focus on the successful, single girl who’s never been engaged or married and doesn’t have kids.

I have so many wildly successful, beautiful, educated, interesting, fun, sexy, down-for-a-good-time, single friends and we all feel alone. Like somehow we missed the boat on finding our man.

Sure, guys say they’re attracted to confident, independent women…unless you make more money than them, or have a better title, or a better education, etc. It’s a double-edged sword. Here we are thinking we’re doing the right thing by improving ourselves and striving for more, but often, we feel like we’ve actually cursed ourselves in the dating world.

Well I call bullshit on that! BULL. SHIT. I refuse to believe that men are that insecure and that being a successful single woman means you’re destined for spinsterhood.

I’m writing this book and started this community for you! Yes, you. You are not alone. We are not alone. We are in this together and if we don’t laugh about all the shit we go through trying to find Mr. Right and navigating the complexities of dating, we’ll cry.

So if you need a dose of Rachel Hollis kicking your ass into living your best life, mixed with some funny, tell-it-like-it-is, oh-my-God-that-happened-to-me-too Carrie Bradshaw dating stories, you’re in the right place. I welcome you with open arms and can’t wait to share this crazy experience called dating together.

xoxo
Erin

What She Said

If I want to know the absolute truth, I go to Erin. She’s a straight shooter, no-bullshit friend who doesn’t beat around the bush. Who wouldn’t want Erin in their circle of influence? She’s as sharp as a tack and makes you laugh while keeping it REAL....especially when it comes to dating. She inspires single women and married couples alike. She invigorates us all!

Elise, 54

Erin Stafford
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2016-05-03T18:07:52+00:00

Elise, 54

If I want to know the absolute truth, I go to Erin. She’s a straight shooter, no-bullshit friend who doesn’t beat around the bush. Who wouldn’t want Erin in their circle of influence? She’s as sharp as a tack and makes you laugh while keeping it REAL....especially when it comes to dating. She inspires single women and married couples alike. She invigorates us all!
Erin is the real deal. She is a confident, competent ass-kicker who, after a brief encounter with her, makes you feel like you've known her all your life. One of her greatest gifts is storytelling and thankfully she's got lots of material!! Strap in, you're in for a wild ride!

Amy, 49

Erin Stafford
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2016-05-03T18:24:44+00:00

Amy, 49

Erin is the real deal. She is a confident, competent ass-kicker who, after a brief encounter with her, makes you feel like you've known her all your life. One of her greatest gifts is storytelling and thankfully she's got lots of material!! Strap in, you're in for a wild ride!
Erin is a modern-day literary genius producing side-splitting humor wrapped in blankets of resilience. Erin’s passion, power and prowess expressed through this montage of life events is moving, inspiring and down-right funny.

April, 37

Erin Stafford
2019-06-11T21:40:39+00:00

April, 37

Erin is a modern-day literary genius producing side-splitting humor wrapped in blankets of resilience. Erin’s passion, power and prowess expressed through this montage of life events is moving, inspiring and down-right funny.
Erin is one of the most inspiring human beings I know. Her go-getter attitude and tell-it-like-it-is approach is so refreshing. She kills it when it comes to her career, she is a world traveler and a chronic dater. Erin will crack you up with her online dating chronicles. Her stories hit all too close to home, are hilarious and all too real just like her.

Lauren, 38

Erin Stafford
2019-06-14T17:52:15+00:00

Lauren, 38

Erin is one of the most inspiring human beings I know. Her go-getter attitude and tell-it-like-it-is approach is so refreshing. She kills it when it comes to her career, she is a world traveler and a chronic dater. Erin will crack you up with her online dating chronicles. Her stories hit all too close to home, are hilarious and all too real just like her.
Erin always tells it like it is and can laugh with me AND at herself. She is someone I love being around, because she truly enjoys life and seizes every day and opportunity; she becomes what she wants to be, because she believes she can. She’s a mover and a shaker and I am INSPIRED by her.

Karen, 43

Erin Stafford
2019-06-14T17:52:37+00:00

Karen, 43

Erin always tells it like it is and can laugh with me AND at herself. She is someone I love being around, because she truly enjoys life and seizes every day and opportunity; she becomes what she wants to be, because she believes she can. She’s a mover and a shaker and I am INSPIRED by her.
Erin’s writing has grit and forces you to reflect on your own dating snafus. Ever tenacious, she goes into the trenches so we don’t have to. Erin manages to cripple you in laughter while taking her absolutely seriously at the same time.

Samantha, 28

Erin Stafford
2019-06-17T16:28:32+00:00

Samantha, 28

Erin’s writing has grit and forces you to reflect on your own dating snafus. Ever tenacious, she goes into the trenches so we don’t have to. Erin manages to cripple you in laughter while taking her absolutely seriously at the same time.
Erin is an incredibly charming, straight-shooting woman of our times with her finger firmly on the pulse of what is happening (or not happening, as the case may be) in her circles. She always has a new on-point, hysterical insight to share about dating, love or life, with a healthy dose of modern feminism thrown in. Erin is a talented thinker and writer, certain to be an influencer.

Sheila, 41

Erin Stafford
2019-06-20T22:36:22+00:00

Sheila, 41

Erin is an incredibly charming, straight-shooting woman of our times with her finger firmly on the pulse of what is happening (or not happening, as the case may be) in her circles. She always has a new on-point, hysterical insight to share about dating, love or life, with a healthy dose of modern feminism thrown in. Erin is a talented thinker and writer, certain to be an influencer.
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