I’m the girl with the big, fun personality that no one wanted to date in high school. My brother was THE hot guy that all the girls loved and I was basically invisible when standing next to my gorgeous BFF. Let’s just say I wasn’t exactly pursued by many guys growing up.
I continued to work on myself, excelled at school, got a master’s degree from a kick-ass university, traveled the world, grew in my career, met amazing friends, fell in love a couple of times and had a blast along the way, all the while thinking I’d meet Mr. Right and settle down at some point. I mean…I’d set myself up for success after all. Or at least I thought.
Well, news flash, I’m 39 and still single. Never engaged, never married, no kids. WTF?! This wasn’t my plan and sure as hell wasn’t where I thought I’d be at this point in my life. I feel like I need a good divorce under my belt just to feel semi-normal at this age.
So instead of feeling inadequate, I’m turning my pain into my purpose. There are so many books devoted to singles, but damn few focus on the successful, single girl who’s never been engaged or married and doesn’t have kids.
I have so many wildly successful, beautiful, educated, interesting, fun, sexy, down-for-a-good-time, single friends and we all feel alone. Like somehow we missed the boat on finding our man.
Sure, guys say they’re attracted to confident, independent women…unless you make more money than them, or have a better title, or a better education, etc. It’s a double-edged sword. Here we are thinking we’re doing the right thing by improving ourselves and striving for more, but often, we feel like we’ve actually cursed ourselves in the dating world.
Well I call bullshit on that! BULL. SHIT. I refuse to believe that men are that insecure and that being a successful single woman means you’re destined for spinsterhood.
I’m writing this book and started this community for you! Yes, you. You are not alone. We are not alone. We are in this together and if we don’t laugh about all the shit we go through trying to find Mr. Right and navigating the complexities of dating, we’ll cry.
So if you need a dose of Rachel Hollis kicking your ass into living your best life, mixed with some funny, tell-it-like-it-is, oh-my-God-that-happened-to-me-too Carrie Bradshaw dating stories, you’re in the right place. I welcome you with open arms and can’t wait to share this crazy experience called dating together.